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Helping Children After a Divorce in Orlando, Florida

There was an article in the Orlando Sentinel Section 2 on Wednesday April 20, 2022, titled “How to make kids feel at home after divorce” written by Hanna Ingber of The New York Times. In the article, experts offer tips on helping your children adjust in the aftermath of a divorce. 

The experts state that one of the most difficult aspects of a divorce with children can be saying goodbye to the marital home as it once was and creating a new setup for the kids, whether for a joint custody arrangement or short visits. 

Jann Blackstone states that most people are not at their best when they are breaking up. For the children involved, getting this transition right is critical. Blackstone says that kids operate on the assumption their world is going to be stable and remain stable, so when divorce comes up, the going rationale of the children’s belief system gets shaken up in a way that often causes them to question their reality. 

Another expert says that parents need to show their children in a concrete way that their family and sense of belonging is intact. The article then provides a guide to help parents facing this. Here are some of the best practices from co-parenting experts and tips from parents mentioned in the guide: 

Prepare for It

Expert Blackburn states that it is important for parents to have an idea what the kids’ life will look like and how they will present that to them. 

Talk About It

This may seem obvious, but explaining what is happening to your children is essential. Some people are so upset about the divorce that they do not talk to their children about it. But kids have questions, and they need information to help them process everything. 

Create a Special Space

Next comes figuring out where your child will stay in your new place. Ingber said that parenting experts told her that it is crucial that a setup belongs entirely to your child. 

Involve the Kids

Include your children when you decorate the space. It can help ease the transition and give them some ownership over what is happening. 

Think Beyond a Bed and a Toothbrush

The more you can make both places feel like home — even if the child only visits during holidays or vacations — the better. This means, if possible, try to have a toothbrush, pajamas, clothes, toys, and books in both places. 

Try to reduce as much as you can what your child carries back and forth. Think broadly about what makes a place a home. The main thing for the child visiting is that they feel like they are part of the family and that other members of the family see them that way too. The experts say that you should give your child chores, even if they are only visiting occasionally. 

If you have more questions regarding a Marital and Family Law matter, you may call Ann Marie Giordano Gilden at Ann Marie Giordano Gilden, P.A. at 407-732-7620 and set an initial consultation. 

This article is for informational purposes only and does not form an attorney client privilege.